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     Musicfan Celebrity Bewarse Username: Musicfan Post Number: 46057 Registered: 05-2004 Posted From: 68.43.21.207 Rating: |
Will give a try.. Basic character of any soul is Ananda. This is the constant desired state. However even when there is slight deviation, the soul tend to be unhappy, the very basic reason is that it deviated from the original state. Human kind tend to be unhappy always due to main reason that we cannot understand what is the true state of happiness, ( will get to this later ) Having said that, the main three reasons for not being happy 1. Expectations 2. Ownership 3. trying to go against nature. Attached Detachment/Detached attachment seems to be resolving these issues, as it reduces being unhappy for major reasons that cause unhappiness. we basically tend to misunderstand the word detachment by saying it similar to "Vairagyam", which the materialistic world quickly evade this term. However detachment is not about leaving everything, there is no difference between both, only the difference in expectations/ownership/abiding by nature laws is what it is. We need to remember everything in this world is time bound and has to end one day or other, There is no such thing called permanent.. Detachment can be applied to many areas in life. 1. Family 2. Relatives/friends 3. Money/Property 4. About yourself. 5. career/achievements and many more, Coming to family, One another saying is that "we give birth to our children, not to their destiny" We think once we give birth, we own them and set some expectations about their life. Detachment comes right here, saying we dont own anything in their life, not even their thoughts, movements, breath, destiny, All the role we have to play is as a parent, guide them to our best abilities in right path and provide them all the basic necessities without any laziness thinking as responsibility and duty. Never expect or set your goals on them. Even if they fail to meet your expectations, don't hate them, punish them, keep helping them to be in right path. Now one's spouse, He/She is destined to live with you as soul mate. Do as much as you can to have a peaceful life without expectations. Parents are the reason why ones exists, we cannot expect any thing more from them. We as a duty have to support them when they need help. When we are capable of leading our lives expecting returns from them is something shouldnt do. Ilaaga everything has a sense of detachment, which basically avoids controlling others with your expectations, you command yourself not others, you own yourself not others, we develop tolerance, we cooperate to others instead of hating and many more.. Emo Gurram Egaravachu - AR |
